In what ways has being introverted helped your writing career? It's made me more of a nurturer and able to see the individual. When we experience difficulty we tend to recognize others in the same predicament and want to help. We hear that this is a solitary profession but the writing community is like a village with a very social core. And that's the most difficult part for me.
Tell me about a time that you had to step outside your comfort zone? Recently, I made the decision to self-publish. I didn't realize what a big learning experience it would be – not just about the work but what I would learn about myself, the boundaries I would have to establish in order to stay strong toward my goal. We introverts tend to let others do the talking and sometimes the pushing. I envy those who have been able to make it traditionally but for me this was the right decision, for now, and it seemed like I had to expose and defend parts of myself for the first time. Getting through it was scary but very satisfying.
What's one tip you could share with shy and introverted people that's helped you? You know, for years I felt there was something wrong with me. My mother and her sisters were extreme extroverts and just didn't 'get' us introverts. I felt like a misfit, until my uncle introduced the women in the family to the MyersBriggs book Please Understand Me. Sharing that book as a game with other members of the family and at work was very eye opening. Mom scored a 20 on the Extrovert scale; I was a two. I suspect writers who hit the middle of the scale are the most successful at balancing the solitary with the social. But whether you're a 20 or an 8, on the introvert/extrovert-o-meter, my hope is that each of us can learn to make the best of our talents, and accept that, "hey, this is how God made me, and I'm okay." ;))
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As one of seven "extro" kids, I didn't fully understand introverted folks until I met my wife. Painfully shy with a capital S, she taught me how to see the inner part of myself buried beneath the noise, and she learned from me how to put one brave foot in front of the other when navigating the world. Opposites not only attract, they meld.
ReplyDeleteThat must have been one crazy excited household. The weird thing was I never considered myself shy because I developed a kind of class clown performance oriented persona to hide behind. But later I realized it was just a front. Your wife is lucky she found you! (and vice-versa)
DeleteMarcella, thanks so much for coming on here today. Your post tells me we are very much alike. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Becky. We introverts have to stick together. Ever been to an Shy persons party? Hmm
DeleteI admire you for putting yourself out there like you do. I mean, to sing, alone, in front of people is about the equivalent of standing around naked. You may have been a 2 on the extrovert chart, but you have certainly faced your fears and whipped the shyness bootie!
ReplyDeleteAs an introvert I completely understand what you're saying. I like my little corner of the world but I admit people watching gives me story ideas. Is your heroine an introvert or extrovert?
ReplyDeleteGood question, Linda. She is an introvert and Cass is definitely an extrovert. I wonder if extroverts people watch less...they are usually involved in the action going on around them.
DeleteThanks, Cadence. Everybody needs a D.T. and you're mine!
ReplyDeleteThanks for a great rread
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